School should teach manners
School should teach MY religion
My young child should get themself up in the morning and eat breakfast
My husband didn't do the thing I didn't ask him too
My child can't tie their shoe
My dog barks
My child missed the bus
My child is behind in school and the teachers didn't fix it
Our doctor didn't check my child's temperature
Our doctor can't tell just by looking how sick my child is
It's too cold and the school is still open
What do all these have in common? They are things I've read online in the past week or two. Everytime I read one of them, I think that's your job. These all have really simple answers.
It's not the school's job to know what you think is important for your child to learn. It is their job to teach them what they need for the next grade, for high school or college. It's a parents job to fill in the rest.
It's not the child's job to wake up in the morning, get breakfast, and wake you up so they can get to school. That's your job. You get them up, you make sure they eat, you help them feel loved, and you send them to school. If you have doubts feel free to look up child neglect laws in your town, not feeding and educating your child is neglect.
Your husband probably isn't a mind reader. Maybe he is, but likely not. That means that no matter how much he wants to help you, he doesn't always know what you need him to do. I have found that an effective way of having my needs filled is to a) take care of it myself or b) communicate those needs to someone. He wants you to be happy, you want to be happy, and you both want him to be happy. Shared goals mean a lot!
It seems to me that I can look at my child, who I see all the time, who I have bonded with and who is a massive part of my life, sometimes IS my life, and know that she's not feeling well. My doctor sees her a few times a year, and sees several other patients. It takes me not long to share the necessary details, and he can tell me what's wrong with her, but it's my job to see the symptoms, record them, report them, and treat them. I'm certain this is all also in your local child neglet laws.
A parent also has the right to make safety related decisions. Too cold for school? Stay home. Sick child? Rather then wait for the school to call for pick up, stay home. It's your child, your responisibility, and your choice.
All those things you want your child to learn in life, that makes up your job. It's your job as the parent to teach them. It's your job to care for pets, to tie shoes, to cure fevers and make meals. It's a hard job, and certainly needs some age appropriate delegation, but ultimitely you are the manager, so it's still your job to make sure they are doing what they need to. How do I know it's your job? Simple. You're the parent.