As a mom one of my worst fears ever is that I won't be able to feed her. That the day will arrive when we have no food and I can't afford to get more. As its been close a couple times its a reasonable concern for me and I fear it every day. I know that some of my money worries rubbed off on her so its a little nice that she will ask for things without fear, but it also means I need to say no. Sometimes because we can't afford to waste grocery money on convenience items and sometimes just because she doesn't need the sugar, but its still there.
Sitting at home later it occurred to me that in a world where anything can happen and we never know what's next, what if this was the last day we had together. What if we never get to go grocery shopping together again and I told her no. Because money is tight and its full of sugar. Do I really want that to be one of my regrets? One of my stronger memories? What if something happens to me and she lives the next 90 years without me knowing only that I wouldn't let her have it. The other side of course is that Im trying to raise a healthy child who learns to make smart choices food wise and financially, who knows enough to be careful but to not live in fear every day (it really is very tiring) and sometimes that means saying no. I did say yes to a lot of other things today...I hope it balances out.
I guess while its important to remember the future is unknown, but try not to let that take away your today.